Healing your Inner Child
Reprogramming your Unconscious
Awakening the New You
Living your Higher Purpose
BENEFITS OF THIS PROGRAM
Healing your Inner Child
Letting go of past trauma
Releasing stored toxic emotions
Forgiveness & Gratitude
Increasing your pranic forces
Taking back your powers of joy and happiness
This program includes intensive self observation processes and requires dedication over the duration of the course
Experience the transformation of your emotional causal being and the awakening of dispassion over this customised program.
‘Working with your inner child’ can sound a bit airy fairy. All this means is that we (like Alice in wonderland) go on a joinery deep into our subconscious and unconscious minds to unveil part hurt and trauma that affects our choices and decisions off this moment. We look at how we sabotage life blessings and we understand why we attract those negative things in our lives. Through understanding, acceptance and surrender we are able to heal our inner child and be free from self sabotage.
The inner child is a psychotherapeutic concept that arose with Jung, and many therapists use forms of inner child work as a powerful tool to help clients. You could be one of those therapists to help other discover their freedom.
What is ‘inner child work’? We were all at one time children. And the child you once were did not just up and vanish, to be replaced by a perfectly formed, always responsible adult. Indeed, most of us act very much like children at least now and then. It’s in the moment you have a temper tantrum over a parking ticket, or fall into a panicky sense of abandonment when you learn your partner is going off for a three-week business trip. And some of us, if we had a tough or loveless childhood, are actually children most (if not all) of the time.We might look like an adult, but inside is an angry five-year old who trusts no one and is secretly calling the shots. This childhood experiences and behaviours have developed our 12 archetypes to who they are today.
The Perennial Truth explains this part of your unconscious that represents the child you once were, and manifests into 12 different archetypes or personalities in social interactions in your adult life.
‘Inner child work’ is work you do either by yourself or with a therapist to resolve the childhood emotions and experiences this ‘inner child’ still holds, as well as harness the joy, innocence, and confidence that are your soul’s right.
What does ‘inner child work’ really involve, though? Different types of therapists, counsellors, and coaches will have different approaches to inner child work. Some may not even call the process ‘inner child work’, but instead something along the lines of‘ healing the child within’ or ’embracing your child archetype’. You might even be doing inner child work under the guise of ‘shadow work’. Often it is as a child that we learn to repress things like sadness and anger that then become the hidden shadow.
Really, inner child work is any form of self discovery that helps you access the child you once were, along with the experiences and emotions that child was taught to repress. The general idea of inner child work is that that if you make an effort to contact, listen to and communicate with, and nurture your inner child, you can find and heal the roots of your issues as an adult.
Inner child work might take the form of:
- dialoguing (talking) with your inner child
- journaling from your inner child’s voice
- talking with a therapist from your inner child’s voice
- meditating to feel in touch with your inner child
- working with a pillow, doll or stuffed toy that represents your inner child
- ‘play’ techniques in the therapy room
- allowing yourself to be playful if real life and do things you loved as a child
- learning to ‘parent’ yourself (nurture and care for yourself).
It sounds odd. What is the real benefit of all that?
Yes, it can seem odd to be ‘talking’ to the ‘child within’ or ‘parenting yourself’. But the benefits are impressive. They include:
- accessing repressed memories that are holding you back
- being able to feel again after years of being numb
- gaining personal power and the ability to set boundaries
- learning how to take better care of yourself
- feeling self-compassion and liking yourself more
- being able to enjoy life and have fun again
- gaining self-confidence.
Why would my inner child hold hidden emotions? Childhood trauma leaves a child with shame, which means he or she will feel they have to hide their experience and/or emotions in order to survive.
If you were controlled by your parents, or if you were taught to believe you were only acceptable and loveable if you were ‘good’, then you would learn to hide the emotions like sadness or anger that got you into trouble.
If you experienced rejection, abandonment, or abuse, you would learn to hide your pain and fear to not be hurt or rejected again. These repressed emotions then lead to cycles of self-sabotage in adulthood. We either seek the parenting we missed out in other people and always feel disappointed, rejected, and let down when they can’t fulfil our demands, or we refuse to let anyone close to hurt us that much again.
For example, if you were taught to repress pain, you might run from good relationships rather than allow yourself to be hurt. The end result is always feeling lonely. Or, if you were taught you must always be pleasing to win love, you can end up in codependent relationships.
Inner child work helps you to finally accept and feel your emotions, and to take care of the ‘child within’ and thus your adult self, too. Finally you become a ‘grown up’, able to honour and take care of your own needs.
Why can’t I achieve all of the above from my adult self? As adults, we can be very hard on ourselves. Our own self-judgement and loathing can make healing and moving on difficult. While we can blame and berate our adult self easily, who can blame a child?
Seeing unresolved childhood trauma, pain, and repressed emotions as a separate entity, an ‘inner child’, can help you to be more compassionate towards yourself. And the more empathy we can show towards ourselves, the faster we can process and heal our pasts.
But you are still your adult self when you do inner child work. It’s simply about accessing another part of your unconscious, or a side of your personality, if you like.
What psychological and spiritual issues can inner child work help me with? The issues that inner child work is known to be very suitable for include:
- childhood abuse – emotional abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse
- depression and anxiety
- anger management issues
- passive aggressive behaviour
- low self-esteem
- abandonment issues and borderline personality disorder (BPD)
- emotional numbness
- relationship difficulties
- codependency and powerlessness.
But I don’t want to blame my parents….
Working with the inner child is not about unearthing all the things your parents did ‘wrong’ and getting angry at them. Yes, you might spend time letting your inner child get furious at the parents she or he then had. The emotions need to be processed, and often at the level they were created. But with this comes the recognition that you are no longer that child.
Therapy also helps you recognise who the adult you is, along with his or her personal power and mature perspective. You might find that after a period of allowing yourself to feel anger and sadness towards others you find all new understanding and compassion, able to see others are not perfect either and had their own unmet needs to struggle with.